Hi Aleman.
I used to use the bucket with the holes drilled into it and it works very well. Now I have a RIMS system that has a mash/lauter tun with a stainless steel false bottom. As the mash circulates the grain bed gets pulled down and by the time I start to sparge it has formed a very good filter with the hot wort running perfectly clear.
You are right about not sparging too much. You should not use runnings that have a gravity below 1.010 or you get those tannins you were talking about. You should also not use water above about 78 degrees C or you get the same problem.
Here is a picture of my mash/lauter tun
Cheers
Ben H